It’s easy to get caught up in the ‘hero’ narrative – the one that says if we try hard enough, we’ll get the happy ending we want. But persistence isn’t always a good thing – in fact, it often makes us look like a-holes.
Sometimes a hook-up is everything I need: interesting, emotionally connected, sexy as fuck. It’s these interludes that restore my faith in the process. Even though it’s hit-and-miss, it’s totally possible to have brief encounters that fulfill my needs – amazing connections that are no less valuable for being brief.