It seems like everyone has something to say about consent these days.
The #metoo movement shows that fucking up consent happens a lot more than we realise, and that it has nasty repercussions for both the victim and the perpetrator. #metoo also has a lot of folks running scared, because they're afraid they're going to be called monsters for not knowing how to do consent properly.
That's not my beef. I'm not going to shame you by saying you're a bad person if you don't do consent the same way I do. I understand that most of the world doesn't understand why it’s important, and most people don't really know how to do consent during their sexual encounters.
Lots of folks assume that consent is something you ask for once, before you forge ahead bravely like a Spartan soldier. Others reckon it's a buzz-kill - they're afraid of being that loser who says, ‘may I kiss you?’ Or it goes the other way - we assume it's the other person's job to do the consent stuff, and not ours.